Well, I think it's safe to say that I have an innate need to maintain this blog, though I've failed to do so, because without it, I end up torturing my Facebook friends with my endless ramblings about my family, my marriage, my pitiful domestic endeavors. While I'm sure a quick update here and there is appreciated by all, blog-length entries are not what status updates are intended for...Although, you know what IS intended for blog-lenth entries? Blogs! So hello, blogosphere. I've got stuff to say!
It's been a while since I started this little blog of mine. My 4-month-old bundle of cute is now a 21-month-old bundle of possibly even cuter:
And life is a new adventure every single day, in a way I never could have imagined.
But my post today is going to focus on my marriage...I'm basically going to repost something I posted on Facebook today, because it's what inspired me to check back in on this blog. It was a ridiculously long post. I do that a lot. I get riled up about things, ya see, and I just...
I have a lot of thoughts in my mind and my fingertips.
So I came across this today:
A well-circulated Pinterest craft that I made for my husband's birthday a couple of years ago. So nice to go back and read all the silly little things I came up with. They all still apply. I spent a long time pondering my "reasons" and I felt so grateful for him after I really sat there and thought about all the thing I appreciate about him. I'd recommend it to anyone, to just make a list of all the reasons our significant others make our world a better place. Sometimes they're wretched creatures but there's a reason we wake up everyday and decide that we want to continue to walk through life with them. It's a daily decision, and if we based it solely on the butterflies we get when they smile, then...well, let's just say some days you don't get butterflies when they smile. Sometimes you just have to remember that they put up with your shit, too. Or that they make you a better person, most days, because they know all your shortcomings and understand how to help you because they know how you work. Or sometimes you just have to make the decision based on the fact that you know it will get better because you will work together to make damn sure it will get better. Because you're partners. So to take a look at all the little things...It really opens your eyes from the haze of day to day, where human nature pushes you to focus on the bad. *deep breath* lol I'm just going through my memory box and feeling sentimental. I can also go on a rant right now about how tiny Amber Nora's hospital cap is...but I'll save that for another time ;]
Speaking of that hospital cap...It's truly tiny. I mean ridiculously small.
But in all seriousness, I believe the thing that makes marriage work more than anything is conviction. Some days it will be hard as Hell, and you'll start to imagine all the ways your life would be better if they WEREN'T in your life. Chances are, you are wrong. So you marry this person. You make vows and promises, but of course you can't understand what your promises really mean. You can't know how you will feel 2, 10, 50 years down the road. You can't fathom how you and your other will change as people over the course of your marriage. You may lose your beauty, your optimistic outlook...Your goals may change, your opinions may change. Things that may be "why they married you". Those things might go away. All you can know is this person accepts you, has decided to walk through life with you. And you accept them, and have decided to walk through life with them. That's it. That's what you've got. So hold onto that, through the hard times. Savor the good times, and hold onto those as well. Because sometimes you will want to smother your other with a pillow. You would regret it, I promise.
I'm no marriage guru. I have only been married for two years and some change. But I've already learned this lesson, seen it in action. I've seen how hard it can be and I can only imagine what else life will throw at us. But I'm lucky enough to have a husband who talks and, crucially, listens. He is the one who has taught me what love is even when the butterflies are on vacation. He's a wise one, that hubs of mine.
So folks, that's all she wrote. Enjoy your Tuesday and go give your other a little bit of lovin'.
-Sadie
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